I was recently asked for some help by a young person who had a lot of drama going on at the workplace. My advice was if it doesn’t directly concern you stay out of it and certainly don’t repeat things you are hearing in the form of gossip. It made me think about times in my life when I wanted to be involved in every detail of other peoples lives, problems and situations. I wanted to hear it all! I think this is pretty common, especially among young women. Although, I have known men that also liked to “share” personal things about others as well. Why is it we love to talk about other people and their problems or situations, when it doesn’t concern us? Why do we gravitate toward the negatives in life and feed off of them as well as repeating to others the same garbage. Well, I am so glad you asked! I believe it is because of our un-renewed minds. The old nature loves to gossip! And the enemy loves that too, especially amongst Christians. But, that is not the way we are to be. We are to sow words of peace, not words that bring division. The Apostle Paul told us in Ephesians 4:1-2… “walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
Endeavoring means to make effort, be prompt or earnest, be diligent. It comes from the root word that means “speed”. To me that says hurry to make amends to keep unity and run quickly away from gossip. It also means it will take effort. We have to work to keep peace in whatever situations are swirling around us. We can help by refusing to get in the midst of other peoples problems or the situation at hand and not talking about it, if it does not concern us. In other words, we need to mind our own business! (Haven’t we heard that one before!)
Here are some points to think about to help:
1. Keep things to yourself that involve other peoples affairs.
2. Refuse to listen to garbage about other people.
3. Don’t repeat things that don’t concern you, especially in the form of gossip.
4. Refuse to talk to other people about a situation or something that does not involve you.
5. Don’t pry into other peoples lives. If they want to inform you, they will.
Anything that causes a division or upheaval, perpetuates lies and brings feelings of an unsettledness steer away from. Keep yourselves free from the mud slinging and the gossip train! We all know this can happen in families, workplaces and churches. What can you do? PRAY! Pray for all those involved. If you see other people gathering together to “talk about someone”, stay out of the conversation. Sow seeds of love and be kind toward all involved. One thing I have confessed for years is “On my lips is the law of kindness”. This has helped me and reminded me when I wanted to say the wrong things. Following are some verses about this subject:
Proverbs 17:4 An evildoer gives heed to false lips; A liar listens eagerly to a spiteful tongue. NKJV
Proverbs 17:9 He who covers a transgression seeks love, But he who repeats a matter separates friends. NKJV
Hebrews 12:14-16 Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; NKJV
Proverbs 18:13 13 He who answers a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him. NKJV
Ephesians 4:22-24 22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. NKJV
Ephesians 4:28-29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. NKJV
Word meanings from :(Biblesoft’s New Exhaustive Strong’s Numbers and Concordance with Expanded Greek-Hebrew Dictionary. Copyright © 1994, 2003, 2006 Biblesoft, Inc. and International Bible Translators, Inc.)